Everything happens for a reason….
Live it, love it, learn from it. Make your smile change the world, but don’t let the world change your smile…
Things fall apart so that better things can fall together…
What doesn’t kill you makes your stronger
Inspirational central, right?!
The last few months have been a whirlwind of change and I can definitely say I am super happy that I have a Master’s degree which focuses a lot on change management and the ability to manage it, how to overcome resistance and best of all stress the importance of how integral it is to going forward in life.
I’ve learnt that change is constant; no matter what you choose to do change will happen around you. There is no stopping with it. It is not something you can control, in fact in life there is little you can control so you just need to go with the flow… or not.
Recently things have kept happening that I have no control over, none… so I am left with having to deal with it. Fight or flight they say, but I’ve chosen to have no reaction. The reason I have chosen to have no reaction is because I’ve come to the realisation that things happen for a reason, and they will continue to happen – I can’t control what other people do or how they act but I can choose what I do.
So rather than fighting fire with fire – everyone gets burnt…
Dousing it with water – something or someone will still be damaged
I’ve chosen to let things be and not let them affect me.
No acting out.
I read this amazing quote about people who hurt others… I could choose to hurt them back or step back and try to figure out why they did what they did. Often these answers won’t come to you – because some people are just awful and spend their lives pretending to be something they are not to hide the fact they are miserable. I can choose to sit and waste my time trying to work it out and act out or I can just move on and live my life – by the way this is the choice I’ve made.
Things happen in life for a reason, it takes time to work out what that reason is but more often than not it leads you to something more amazing and more beautiful. It’s not to say I don’t care, sometimes I do, but there are other times I don’t. I just choose not to spend my life finding ways to hurt the people that have hurt me.
I’ve had some of the most amazing people come into my life, leave my life and stay in my life. Each coming with them an amazing lesson about life and about myself, I wouldn’t change any of it for the world. I’ve done some stupid things, some that I would never repeat in a million years but hey I’ve learnt. I can look back on each of them and recite the lesson….
… don’t date boys who have snapchat
…when you think he’s controlling, it’s because he is…walk away…
… sometimes you just need to walk away and let things be
At the end of the day, life goes on, the right people will come into our lives and the other people will leave – let them leave, they are just making way for more of the right people to come into life. Don’t hold onto the grudges, don’t continue trying to hurt them, it’s not worth it… it’s like taking a sip of poison and waiting for the other person to die and suffer (you’ll be the only one suffering).
It’s taken me awhile to get to this point, constant dialogue with my meditation teacher and those who have chosen to take the path I have has helped me realise this and helped deal with anger and negativity. We are always given choices in life, you can choose something and if you change your mind you can choose again. What you always have to remember is you have a choice, you have a choice with how you react to a situation and to a person – you have a choice to understand why things happen in life… always for a reason, but it’s up to you to make the most of it.
Always know that what is being thrown at you is happening for a reason, you will never be given more than you can handle though it’ll feel that way. Know that whatever is happening is there to make you stronger and is given to you for a reason…. But most of all know that you have the strength to handle it and to move forward.
It only gets better from here…thank you, universe!